Today at CBMW, our director of international outreach Gavin Peacock provides a solid framework for men to provide masculine mentorship to other young men. This is a tremendous need in our churches today. One of the main misunderstandings of biblical manhood is the view that it is macho—men with beards, wearing flannel, killing their dinner, and conquering mountains. While I enjoy all of those manly activities, manhood is more about maturity than being macho.
Peacock rightly states this:
Paul tells the men of Corinth, “Act like men” (1 Cor. 16:13). Men should act in a masculine, not effeminate way. Paul doesn’t coddle men because he knows it produces self-pity. And self-pity is the blight of manhood because it leads to passivity. Abuse gets the headlines, but passivity is the silent killer of manhood. We know this from Adam’s passive indifference that caused the fall of man. In contrast, Jesus’ proactive passion was at the heart of redemption.
Biblical manhood is not about being macho, but mature. A biblical man is humble, gentle and strong, and one who exercises authority for the good of others, no matter what it costs him in time, money, or reputation.
In fact, I believe this so much, that I am willing to talk about this on almost any platform that I have. Here are a few things you can do today that will be marks of pursuing mature manhood, not macho manhood, and will make Satan tremble.
- Work harder at being a husband and father than anything else today.
- If single, work hard at what is right in front of you. Don’t cut corners.
- Walk with a posture of courageous gentleness towards others. Walk with courage, but be gentle in your posture.
- Make decisions for the benefit of others, not just yourself.
- Pursue purity. Clothe yourself in Scripture and allow your mind and heart to focus on the things of Christ.